Posted by cartoonmick
A brief post I made a few years ago was about “hidden adoption” and the joys subsequently denied to family members.
I’ve received a lot of the positive feedback on the posting. So I’m posting it again (below) in the hope it may be read by those who have knowledge, and are in a position to cause some happiness
It might just unite family members who are not aware of each others existence.
It may also open up essential knowledge on family health history.
Please, if you know someone who may relate to this post, use social media to link them to it.
I have condensed an extremely long story into just a few words…………….
I had a normal family life; Mum, Dad, Brother, School, holidays, friends, jobs, cars, marriage, kids, good-times, bad-times, mortgage etc.
Three years after Mum died (Dad died first); I discovered Dad was not my biological Father. I asked the few remaining relatives and friends of Mums and they all said much the same thing, “What, didn’t they ever tell you?” It seems most knew this secret except my brother and me.
Research revealed who my real Father was (Basil), and he was still alive. I made contact and, over the next couple of years, enjoyed many outings with him at a local pub for fish and chips and two glasses of Guinness. Basil asked me not to make contact with his two sons who lived nearby.
He had little contact with my Mother after I was born, and didn’t know why I hadn’t been told. It seemed nobody alive knew why I wasn’t told.
Basil died a couple of years later and I finally met my two brothers. At Basil’s wake, I learnt a lot about many family members, most long deceased, and some alive. I call that day “Four cousins and a funeral”, when I was welcomed into my newfound extended family.
I’ll never know the real reason for not being told, and people have asked me how I feel about the whole scenario. I guess my only emotion is of mild anger and sadness for not being told, because it denied me half a lifetime of potential contact with an extended family. Years of family interaction opportunities lost. Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Nephews, and Nieces never met, never known.
So my request to you is; if you know anybody who is holding such a secret, PLEASE ask them to reconsider and tell those involved. Pressure them to reveal all information so that family connections can be made, giving people the opportunity to enjoy family relations.
Regardless of the circumstances, ask them not to deny family members the knowledge they are entitled to, the knowledge to make their own decisions.
PLEASE LINK THIS TO AS MANY PEOPLE AS YOU KNOW, FACEBOOK TWITTER WHATEVER.
LET’S CONNECT AS MANY SONS DAUGHTERS BROTHERS SISTERS AND COUSINS AS WE CAN.
Over to you……………..
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Posted on August 14, 2017, in adoption, Cartoon, illustration, humour, humor, caricature, political, art, Australia, Perth, cartoonist, Illustrator, Family, Health, relatives and tagged adoption, Family, family research, finding family, Health, relatives, social. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.