PLEASE, NO RELATIVE SECRETS !
I have condensed an extremely long story into just a few words…………….
I had a normal family life; Mum, Dad, Brother, School, holidays, friends, jobs, cars, marriage, kids, good-times, bad-times, mortgage etc.
Three years after Mum died (Dad died first); I discovered Dad was not my biological Father. I asked the few remaining relatives and friends of Mums and they all said much the same thing, “What, didn’t they ever tell you?” It seems most knew this secret except my brother and me.
Research revealed who my real Father was (Basil), and he was still alive. I made contact and, over the next couple of years, enjoyed many outings with him at a local pub for fish and chips and two glasses of Guinness. Basil asked me not to make contact with his two sons who lived nearby.
He had little contact with my Mother after I was born, and didn’t know why I hadn’t been told. It seemed nobody alive knew why I wasn’t told.
Basil died a couple of years later and I finally met my two brothers. At Basil’s wake, I learnt a lot about many family members, most long deceased, and some alive. I call that day “Four cousins and a funeral”, when I was welcomed into my newfound extended family.
I’ll never know the real reason for not being told, and people have asked me how I feel about the whole scenario. I guess my only emotion is of mild anger and sadness for not being told, because it denied me half a lifetime of potential contact with an extended family. Years of family interaction opportunities lost. Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Nephews, and Nieces never met, never known.
So my request to you is; if you know anybody who is holding such a secret, PLEASE ask them to reconsider and tell those involved. Pressure them to reveal all information so that family connections can be made, giving people the opportunity to enjoy family relations.
Regardless of the circumstances, ask them not to deny family members the knowledge they are entitled to, the knowledge to make their own decisions.
PLEASE LINK THIS TO AS MANY PEOPLE AS YOU KNOW, FACEBOOK TWITTER WHATEVER.
LET’S CONNECT AS MANY SONS DAUGHTERS BROTHERS SISTERS AND COUSINS AS WE CAN.
Over to you……………..
Posted on January 1, 2013, in Cartoon, illustration, humour, humor, caricature, political, art, Australia, Perth, cartoonist, Illustrator and tagged adoption, brothers, children, cousins, Dad, Family, knowledge, Mum, Perth, relatives, secrets. Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.